Remember the day when you started working or doing some activity with your heart in it, you got so involved in that and you gave it your best. At the end of it you create something which makes you satisfied. You are happy with a smile on your face, felt like you accomplished something.
Then suddenly something strange happened for the first time, someone you know looks at what you did and say "Great job man!!!", "Wow !!! too good.", "awesome", "wow this looks so good, how did you do it?", "Great idea", "Great initiative", "Good work"........
Suddenly out of the blue you feel very happy, your sense of accomplishment suddenly increased and you feel more satisfied or rather "felt appreciated"
The aura remains for couple of days, you make some new friends and life keeps on moving. One fine day you thought of doing something else again, kept your heart in it, gave it your best and came out with amazing results. Guess what, you will again get appreciated and you will feel great about it. BUT this time it was a little bit different then the earlier experience, the second time you might think, "let me know what others think about it".
Soon the event continues and you start giving your best in everything you do. Then one fine day you again make something, really really good (as per you) then the earlier two events and you feel happy and satisfied, BUT this time what if, just whaaat if "no one appreciates you?" everyone is so busy in something or the other that some of them might not even notice or comment on it. You try to show them your work, but no response...........
What do you feel? Do you feel demotivated? Do you feel unappreciated? Do you feel low? Please be true to yourself, what do you feel inside you?
Do you feel that their is no appreciation for you? Many of us do, but why? How does this transformation happens from doing something for your own satisfaction, giving 100% to something and being happy about it TO expecting someone to appreciate it?
What is appreciation? Is it a part of social belonging? Is it a fuel to our internal engine which makes us work without which we cannot perform? Does it makes you satisfied if someone says it? What is it? Is it so important that even if you have great talent (like a fancy car) all of it is useless in driving you (like the fancy car without petrol)?
I am not saying don't appreciate. Please, with all means do it, do genuinely appreciate people. But is that we cannot work without it? Is it that our performance, our happiness, satisfaction etc etc are driven by it? Of course many of us might say NO it does not, then do you feel low if you did something really good and presented and no one appreciated?
WHY?
Rahul V Shah
1 comment:
Interesting line of thought.
Appreciation matters only if the targeted audience or user(s) does it.
Any one other than these people who appreciates is a bonus or at times irrelevant.
Appreciation helps in affirming that whatever we did had some affect on the right set of people. Its the feed back mechanism that aids in letting one know that we are on the right track.
Yes, we do tend to get mixed up in sifting the reactions and lose the voice that matters.
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